I went across several articles, papers, discussions ...lately about"forgiving" and "forgetting". I went to Google to find out others' opinions on this topic.
Interesting enough, my good buddy Google gave me tons of links. Some of them are very valuable
- from livestrong.com
- to Wikipedia.org
- to SeekGod.org
- to MarriageBuilders.com
- to WebMD.com
- to ImprovingYourWorld.com
anyway, google this "forgiveness vs forgetting" to get more interesting sources for yourself.
But my question is "have you ever take some time for yourself to think about these forgiving and forgetting ?"
People say "Women don't forgive but forget, men forgive but don't forget".
- What do you think ?
- Is it true ?
- Does it mean that men are just full of shit inside ?
- Does it mean that women are just way angel good inside ?
- Does it mean that forgiving is at a higher level than forgetting ?
- Are these two actually related ?
In my own way of living, experienced life:
Forgetting is just 100% physical related. Your brain might be damaged, you might be under stress, or you might just simply suck and could not remember things.
Some people will always forget things. Some others will never forget a damn thing, they remember almost everything. You are not actually in control of forgetting. There are consequences on both sides of forgetting.
I remember lots of things. Happy things when i was little, happier things when i grew up and many many other sad things too. I don't forget them. Remembering many many sad things doesn't mean that i got haunted by them.
"Everything has a price". I paid dearly for them, i earned it, they will stay with me.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you will/must forget about things. Forgiveness is emotional related (i think). Forgiving doesn't mean that you have to put up with the same bullshit again.
We behave different from one to another and from issue to issue. Usually forgiveness will have connection with some painful, bitter... events of our life.Saying about some haunted things in the past doesn't mean that you did not forgive and could not forget. And saying about haunted things in the past doesn't mean a damn thing. The purpose of saying and the way it was expressed are far more important.
I usually see forgiveness is somewhat similar to the legend about phoenix that rises from it own ashes. If you want the glory, you have to pay the price. But the good news is that you are totally in control of forgiveness. And even a better news, there are only good things that come out from all sides of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is a sign of matureness. It means that you reached some level of thinking and seeing things bigger that how they appear. It also means that you are in control of your life. You are in control of steering yourself away from things that would haunt your life.
Congratulation, what a wonderful way to live our life.
We will all turn into ashes at sometime in the future. There will be no rising from our physical ashes. So in our controlling, we could only rise again from our emotional ashes.
Why are you still hanging on your elder emotional phoenix ? Let it go, it is how things should be. Rise again in glory from your own emotional ashes.
There is nothing bullshit about forgetting and forgiving. They are just parts of life. One you are in control and one you don't.
So let go to grow, buddy !!!
