I figured out that the most fun thing is just write down the states that a father could/will/must go through during his fatherhood time ...
And as a jerk, i will take my case as an example:
- Formalism father: It was Friday afternoon and i could not go to Virginia beach with my friend because my "damned friend" had to visit his master. So i called my step-daughter up, and i tried to ask her if she wanted to join me with my plan B "go fishing on Saturday, go to the zoo on Sunday, then go fishing again on Monday". My step-daughter was not home so i left a message to tell her the general plan. I did not follow up the first call to ensure that my step-daughter could get the message. I tried to convinced myself that my daughter could be busy with her friends and she did not want to spend the weekend with me. This is exactly why it got the name "formalism".
- Selfish father: It was Sunday morning and i was about to leave for the zoo. I got a phone call from my step-daughter, she said that she just knew about the message that i left for her. She was wondering if i could swing back the house to pick her up and take her with me to the zoo. I was thinking about the long drive back to Virginia then another long drive from Virginia to the zoo. I decided that i would make it up for my step-daughter at another time so i took off and went with my relatives to the zoo. It was definitely selfish.
- Guilty father: I came back from the zoo around 7:00PM, then i had to go to the store to pick up some stuff with my cousins. I had dinner around 8:30PM then i went to my cousin room to use the internet when i got a phone call. It was from one of her friends. The boy told me that my step-daughter did not really feel good, that she was missing me a lot. That i should give my daughter a call. I felt pretty bad, guilty so i called my daughter. I could tell by her voice over the phone. She was crying a lot.
- "Damn good" father: I jumped off the bed, grabbed my car key, then i drove back to the house to pick up my daughter. I tried to call my daughter to tell her to prepare some stuff. I could not get through so i called her friend and he told me that my daughter was having some kind of emotional-attacked. By the time i got to the house, my daughter was getting better. And she was so happy because i was a "damn good" father, that i was willing to drive for hours just to pick her up so we could spend sometime together.
- Fun father: We got up around 9:30AM on Monday morning. I called my cousin "Let's go fishing". 15 minutes later, I and Amanda were on the way to fast-food restaurant, McDonald. No, you are wrong, i was not going to catch fish there. They don't have fresh fish, they only have fried fish and in general, fried fish isn't good for our body so I and Amanda got fried ham instead ;). We got to City Lake Park around 12:30 PM. I was about to show my daughter how good i could be with fishing. So i hooked the worm for my daughter then showed her how to cast the hook. I was trying to get the bait on my hook when i heard my cousin said "damn, just a little one". "OK, i will catch up with you in a minute", i told him. I heard Amanda's voice now "I got one too". That was it, the game started. A lot of fun, except the part that it took me 30 minutes to got my first fish. It was a big cat fish. Any way, during that time, my cousin got 4 fish and Amanda got 2.
- Lazy father: We got home around 4:45 PM. Amanda got 2 fish, one of my cousin got 4, I got 7 and the other cousin got 13. We cleaned the fish, actually, just one of my cousin did the work.
- Athletic father: My cousins decided to play soccer. I was up for it ;). We played 3 vs 3, and whichever team got to 10 goals first win. I scored 7 and my team won the first game. It was fun and we were all so tired. Thank to dancing lessons and jogging every afternoon, i could hang on to the game. The other team wanted to re-match. I was so tired but i could not back out. And most of the time, we would see 3-4 players were on the ground. The other team scored 4 first, and they needed only one more goal to win. They did not have that, we hit target 5 times and won the second game. I was so glad that the game was over. I could barely run but i was bigger than other guys so i could just lean against them and had them fell down. Hahahahaha, it was an easy job. I did that before whenever i played soccer in VN.
- Goofy daddy: during the game, the ball went out of the field several times, there were two Mexican girls who were jogging on the pitch line. They were so nice to kick the ball back for us. So i tried to ask them if they wanted to join the game with us. And this was the response of my step-daughter "Daddy, after i kill those two girls, i will kill you too, but i still love you"
"there is always a boy inside each father"
So:
- let him act like a child sometimes
- let him believe that he is still young (he will accept the fact better whenever he could barely walk off the field)
- let him try to get you so many things to make up for the time that he took for himself
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