My Father's Day

Hold on, let me laugh first ....

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA

I had a great Father's day. And this is the story:

Be a child first:

- I got up around 8:15AM, got online and found several offline messages from friends "Did you call your father ?" "Remember to call your father !".
- I wanted to call my Dad but i was not sure what we would talk about so I sent him a text message. He replied that he was doing OK and he was happy that i contacted him.

Enjoy of being a Daddy:

- 9:10AM, Amanda got up and the first thing she did was pulling out a home-made greeting card and gave it to me. She did it by herself.
- It is a very cute card. You will see it here. The card has a front page, an inner page and a back page.
This is the front page, it is actually just a half page with the word Dad on it. The whole purpose of the front page is to cover up the middle part of the back page:

And this is the laughter (hahahahahahahaha). Yeah, i am the shark in the middle, a cute one, right:

And this is how good my ex-step-daughter could write:

Nguyen, daddy
I love you. I just want you to know that we may not be blood dad and daughter, but you are my friend, my soft shoulder to cry on, my teacher and my hard hand when i need one.
I love you and to me, you are my dad. I and you are family. And i hope you know how much it means to me to have you.
Most of all, thanks for always being here for me. You show me how a family should be. (And how i can be smart and cute at the same time LOL)
I love you daddy.

And again, being the cool guy:

- Around 12:15PM, I and Amanda went to one of my cousin's house. They were having a Father's Day gathering there. We went there a little bit late and we did not have much food left but the food was good and Amanda loved it.
- I got sick of hearing people talking about crazy stuff so i asked my cousin if he could give me a hair cut. We went outside for my hair cut, then i saw 4 little girls (include my Amanda) and 2 little boys. The girls were trying to throw water balloons at the boys. I liked this kind of game so i said a few to the kids they immediately added me to the game.
- We had two sides. The girls were Amanda - 16, Lynna - 12, Jessica -10 and Jennifer - 8. The boys were Nguyen - 33, Johnny - 8 and Kevin -10. The girls had more water balloons but the boys, we definitely had more AGE, hahahahhahaha.
- Johnny did not pay attention to Amanda and he tried to get close to a girl to take her water balloon. Amanda got an easy job to do. She just dropped a BIG water balloon on Johnny head. We laughed so hard at Johnny. A few minutes later, the boys gave me a water balloon and i ensured that the water bomb hit Jessica right at her back. The baby whined "it hurts so bad".
- Then we ran out of balloon so I and Amanda went to a store down the road to get some more balloons. We came back with 4 big packs of balloons and the game resumed. It was so much fun. I got a couple balloons burst over my head when i tried to catch them. My other boys got hit several times too.
- Bottom line, the girls got hit several times but they could claim that they were the winners. All the adults went outside to go home and they found me between the kids, hahahahahaha. I didn't really care that much. I had fun with those kids and they loved it. They like uncle Nguyen. That is good enough.

Because it is Father Day !!!

Make it simple !

I called and talked to Amanda last night. I was trying to pick her up on the way i drive back from my work on Thursday afternoon. I planned to hang out with her until Friday night then drop her at her house because i am not sure if she wanted to go with me on Saturday to check out some houses in Charlotte.

She told me that she could not go with me until Friday night. I told her how boring it would be on Saturday when we would go out to see some houses and suggested her to stay home.

"But i want to go with you !!!" Amanda said.
"It is boring baby, we would talk about crazy stuff and you have no idea what they are !!!".
"But i want to go with you because it is Father Day !!!"

OK! shut up and go to hell Nguyen.
"Way to go Amanda, you know to to touch a man's heart. But don't do this to a teenage boy, you two will ruin the other's life."

I am just an "ex-step-father" but after listening to Amanda's words, i feel really happy.

How am i going to answer this damn question of my kids ?

OK, this is one of the day that i am in the mood of speaking out somethings. And YES, this is what i want to put on the table.

Should we keep telling our kids:

"If you want something bad enough and you put enough efforts into it, you will get it" ?

I personally think the above sentence is one of the most popular uncompleted sentence in this world, you want to know WHY, right ?

OK, you got up in the morning, you son was standing next to your bed "Daddy, I want to become Bill Gate. Can i become another Bill Gate ?".

You might hear a voice in your mind "Holly crap, how should i answer him now ? I know his ability, he could become another Bill or another Gate for sure, but 'the Bill Gate', i don't know".

As a good daddy, you can not burst his bubble but you can not put a wrong thought in his mind either. You want to keep your son's spirit up but you don't want years down the road, your son will think "damn you daddy, you lied to me, I am flipping bugger here at McDonald, not in an office like at Microsoft"

So, where is the damn missing part here ? The above sentence did not mention anything about the scope of that "something". I don't have any advice to give out here to answer your kids. You are on your own here.

Another situation here is when people use that sentence in relationship. Your friend might come to you one day "Damn, I like that girl a lot, i mean a lot, and i tried for a long time but she does not love me back !"

Here you go, you already know the answer, right? You can only control 50% of the love game. You can show the girl that you are the best candidate but she might only like the runner-up candidate, she controls the other 50%. So here is my tip on this topic "Pick the right girl...!!!"
Hahahahahhahahahahahahaha

"Our ancestor passed along their thoughts through words, We read words and ignore thoughts"

Cổ nhân vì ý truyền lời, người nay đọc lời quên ý.

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What the heck is going on ... ? (sorry, it is just about driving)

The first scenario, I was driving on the road and got caught in a mist, some foggy bridges. I used to think about that kind of situation and it would scare the sh.t out of me.
Yeah, just imagine that you are driving around 70miles/hour (120km/hour) then in a sudden, you can only see 10-15 feet (3-5 meters) ahead of you. What will go through your mind at that moment:

• You ask yourself if the road ahead has a curve.
  
• You ask yourself if you are still in your lane or running into the next lane.
  
• You ask yourself if the drivers behind you are in aware of what is going on here or not.
  
• You ask yourself if the cars in front of you are trying to stop.
  
• You ask yourself if you should slow down or keep the same speed.
• You ask yourself if you keep moving forward what you will rely on to keep the right direction.
• ............................
  

The second scenario, it is a clear day, and I can see way far ahead of me. I see a curve on the road, maybe 300 feet (100 meters) ahead then without notice, i start to turn adjust the turning wheel as if i am at that curve already. Holly crap, the drivers who are behind and next to me will blow their car's horn at me............

What the heck should i do ... ? (again, sorry, it is about driving too)

Dude, just do not get panic, alright !!! Yeah, just slowly reduce your car's speed down a bit. Just concentrate to the distance that is right in front of you, it is the only part that matter, the rest is just relevant. Look for the lane marks on your driving side and right in front of you. They will keep you in the right direction and in the safe zone.

So what the heck i am talking about ... !!! (seriously, this is not about driving any more)

I was driving to my dance class. I was thinking about my dear friend who is going through a tough time of her life. I got caught in a horrible rain, it started out just as any normal rain then in a sudden i saw little pieces of ice. Damn, it was a hail.

I used to laugh at people when they had to pull over to the side of the road because they could not see the road to drive. And this was the first time in my driving life, i could not see anything ahead of me.
For a split second, i asked myself "what the heck should i do ? pull over or keep driving ? what thing should i look at to keep me in the safe zone and do not run into people ?"
In the next second, i talked to myself "F..k this, i am not going to stop here, i will go to where i planned to go to. Watch me, i will just need to keep a safe distance with the car next to me then i will be there safely..."

I instantly linked my driving situation to one of my friend's situation so...

This is for you, my dear, who is fighting against a tough situation in your life.

• Don't get panic.
• Don't try to worry too far ahead.
• Don't wear yourself out with millions of IF QUESTIONS.
• Do rely on things are in present to make decision.
• Do believe that things, people around will be there to provide supporting, guiding.
• Do believe that the foggy, tough time would be over any minute, so just take care of the tough parts right ahead.

Would I Still Have You ?

When I was young I had a dream
That I would meet someone like you
And we would have a happy home
If the world would leave us alone

So it came to pass it all came true
You needed me like I needed you
But the world kept moving on
And our life was changed by a song

Sometimes I wonder and I worry too
If I did not know how to sing
Would I still have you?
That's the time I wished
I'd never bought that first guitar
I'd be out somewhere in Oklahoma
Fixing cars
But maybe after my hard working
Day was through
I'd still have you

It's hard to have loving on your mind
With people lining up for it all the time
And the world I loved went floating by
How did I miss the hurt in your eyes
- Lobo

Listen to the song here